I get myself as friend when executing method un repository - symfony

Question

I am checking for friends that has accepted my friend request and thus are my real friends. But when displaying my friends I get myself as friend and not the person I have for friend sometimes. This appears when for example my id is second in the table.
I have tried checking if the userid is in either of the columns. Also tried with having two way friendship like A friend with B but B friend with A too. I couldnt get the repository work for the second method so I sticked to this one.
My repository:
public function personalFriends($userId){
$em = $this->getEntityManager();
$result = $em->createQuery('SELECT friends FROM AppBundle\Entity\Friends friends
INNER JOIN AppBundle\Entity\User myuser WHERE (friends.friendsWithMe = :userId OR friends.afriendof = :userId) AND friends.friends = 1');
$result->setParameter('userId', $userId);
return $result->getResult();
}
My controller:
public function indexAction(Request $request)
{
$user = $this->get('security.token_storage')->getToken()->getUser();
$userId = $user->getId();
$posts = $this->getDoctrine()->getRepository(UserPosts::class)->findUserPosts($userId,1);
$friends = $this->getDoctrine()->getRepository(Friends::class)->personalFriends($userId);
return $this->render('default/index.html.twig',
['formed' => null,
'posts' => $posts,
'posted'=>null,
'search' => null,
'friends' => $friends
]);
}
My view :
<div class="card card-body">
{{ app.user.username|capitalize }}'s friends:
{% if friends %}
<div>
{% for friend in friends %}
{{ friend.afriendof.username }}
{% endfor %}
</div>
{% else %}
<div>
You have no friends.
</div>
{% endif %}
</div>
Friends Entity:
class Friends
{
/**
* #ORM\Id()
* #ORM\ManyToOne(targetEntity="AppBundle\Entity\User", inversedBy="myfriends", fetch="EAGER")
* #ORM\JoinColumn(name="user_id", referencedColumnName="id", nullable=false)
*/
private $friendsWithMe;
/**
* #ORM\Id()
* #ORM\ManyToOne(targetEntity="AppBundle\Entity\User", inversedBy="friendof", fetch="EAGER")
* #ORM\JoinColumn(name="friend_id", referencedColumnName="id", nullable=false)
*/
private $afriendof;
/**
* #var integer
*
* #ORM\Column(name="request_sent", type="smallint")
*/
private $requestSent;
/**
* #var integer
*
* #ORM\Column(name="friends", type="smallint")
*/
private $friends;
I want to get only the friends and not myself. I get that I have to change the friend.afriendof.username with friend.friendswithme.username, but how to know when to change between those two.