mariadb server: I can't stop the server with `mysql.server stop` - mariadb

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OSX 10.13.6
I installed mariadb sever with homebrew a few years ago, and I use it infrequently. Today, I tried to start mariadb using the command:
$ mysql.server start
and I got a bunch of errors. So, I did:
$ brew update
then:
$ brew uprade mariadb
That completed fine, and now I can start mariadb with:
$ mysql.server start
and I can access all my old db's.
The problem I'm having is that I cannot stop mysql. Both these commands hang:
$ mysql.server stop
and(in another terminal window):
$ mysql.server status
According to the MariaDB docs for mysql.server, both those commands should work.
Currently, I'm killing the server like this:
$ killall mysqld mysqld_safe
then checking that the server was killed with this:
$ ps aux | grep mysqld
When I run the ps command when mysql is running, I get:
~$ ps aux | grep mysqld
7stud 3707 0.0 1.0 4808208 79948 s005 S 1:26PM 0:00.47
/usr/local/Cellar/mariadb/10.3.15/bin/mysqld
--basedir=/usr/local/Cellar/mariadb/10.3.15 --datadir=/usr/local/var/mysql --plugin-dir=/usr/local/Cellar/mariadb/10.3.15/lib/plugin --log-error=/usr/local/var/mysql/My-MacBook-Pro-2.local.err --pid-file=/usr/local/var/mysql/My-MacBook-Pro-2.local.pid
7stud 3643 0.0 0.0 4287792 1460 s005 S 1:26PM 0:00.02 /bin/sh
/usr/local/Cellar/mariadb/10.3.15/bin/mysqld_safe
--datadir=/usr/local/var/mysql --pid-file=/usr/local/var/mysql/My-MacBook-Pro-2.local.pid
7stud 4544 0.0 0.0 4267752 880 s000 S+ 1:41PM 0:00.00
grep mysqld
What is the proper way to shut down the mariadb server?
mysql> SHOW VARIABLES LIKE '%vers%';
+---------------------------------+------------------------------------------+
| Variable_name | Value |
+---------------------------------+------------------------------------------+
| innodb_version | 10.3.15 |
| protocol_version | 10 |
| slave_type_conversions | |
| system_versioning_alter_history | ERROR |
| system_versioning_asof | DEFAULT |
| thread_pool_oversubscribe | 3 |
| version | 10.3.15-MariaDB |
| version_comment | Homebrew |
| version_compile_machine | x86_64 |
| version_compile_os | osx10.13 |
| version_malloc_library | system |
| version_source_revision | 07aef9f7eb936de2b277f8ae209a1fd72510c011 |
| version_ssl_library | OpenSSL 1.0.2r 26 Feb 2019 |
| wsrep_patch_version | wsrep_25.24 |
+---------------------------------+------------------------------------------+
14 rows in set (0.01 sec)

Answer 1

I had the same issue, tried to use mysql.server stop and mysql.server status after running mysql.server start but they will just run indefinitely.
If you are using a Mac seems that mysql.server stop won't work... I installed mariadb with homebrew and found out that I can use brew services to start and stop it in this link:
https://dba.stackexchange.com/questions/214883/homebrew-mariadb-server-start-error-with-mysql-server-start
The commands are pretty simple and they work for me
brew services start mariadb
brew services stop mariadb
It may be a little late but I hope this helps you to figure out your problem.

Answer 2

See https://stackoverflow.com/a/59938033/4579271 for details.
To fix, run:
cp /usr/local/bin/mysql.server /usr/local/bin/mysql.server.backup
sed -i "" "s/user='mysql'/user=\`whoami\`/g" /usr/local/bin/mysql.server